Love, Communication and Life
By Iram Wyne
Every time someone tries to place certain moments, it makes me think ‘do we fall for people or do we find meaning in those frozen seconds of time when all is perfect and beautiful and end up remembering the significance of that very instance rather that feeling anything for the person itself?’ Since the question isn’t straightforward, the answer I’m sure, isn’t simple either.
To understand this question I look around me. Recently I saw a film and observed that boys always tend to dramatize the aspect when they propose to a girl. Balloons, cakes, chocolate, and roses are all the usual props, meant to win us over, and pretty soon we start counting them as symbols of love. It is like the weather. If there are clouds there would be rain. I guess we are inclined to start adding this bookish romance to our lives where everyone expects things to be dramatic in certain moments. We feel that the meaning of these special moments would be better understood and more enhanced by the greater number of material things that surround us when it happens. In this process we become immune to feelings and emotions and emphasise more on designing a particular ‘stage’ from our fantasy. We try too hard to communicate feelings through things. So most of us end up as mute as a blank television screen and become dependent on the use of signs and symbols for communication. This is a big reality that the society is starting to have a lesser regard for feelings, and a greater one for signs and symbols for love.
It follows that, if someone has to remember a birthday, ironically, birthday reminders have become en vogue rather that the good ol’ brain. If someone was to wish you on your birthday, regardless of whether their phone reminded them, the fact that they wished you surpasses the idea of how they came to remember it. Their love for you is to be measured by the fact that that they did something for you that made you feel good and it shouldn’t matter to you what means they used.
In a nutshell, we adopt things from our soundings and without realising us it; they become a part of our lifestyle. If we chose a product to stylise ourselves then we can chose the way we want everything in our life. I personally think, words are the best way to communicate then anything else. Things can’t speak but you can.